struggles in marriage
“While I live in this home, I’m constantly reminded of the betrayal I went through in our marriage.”
My sister in Christ admits her weakness in overcoming the hurt that is real. She and her husband have already conquered some tough hurdles in their few years of marriage, but they’re committed to make it work and are holding one another accountable. Celebrate Recovery is a tool God is using to equip them for overcoming addictions and for open and honest communication about their struggles.
When the sting of lies and betrayal is still fresh upon you, it’s difficult to imagine a day when the negative circumstances of the past are not affecting the now. But it does come. The immediate is called a grace period. You are healing.
“Lord, I need You, O, I need You. Every hour I need You. My one defense, my righteousness- O, God, how I need You.”1
You see, today’s daily bread is the portion of grace you need to move forward in restoration. Rather than think about what the coming days will hold, focus on today. It’s like a runner preparing for the NYC Marathon. She looks at the three-month training log and sees the figure 26.2 listed on race day, and it overwhelms her. She has never run any distance longer than 13.1. But today doesn’t require a distance of 26.2 miles. Day 1 of her training schedule indicates a three-mile run. That is doable.
What’s the significance? Your responsibility during the restoration process is to be faithful with the distance you must “run” today. And know this: God’s grace is sufficient for you to complete all that is before you. You don’t have to worry about that day three months from now. His grace will carry you. Today is your focus. Be found faithful with today.
And what about the home and all the reminders of struggle that it represents? Do not despise those scars, dear one. One day your home will stand as a trophy, because what the enemy meant for evil, God turned for good! You looked to Him and trusted in His sufficient grace for each day of the journey, and now you bear the mark of an overcomer! This will be your testimony! Your home representing a family in tact and rooted in love will be your trophy! Do not give up now! God’s grace is powerful, and you can get those feet moving in stride with the Holy Spirit who equips you to run.
“Let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith” (Hebrews 12:1-2).
1 Maher, Matt. “Lord, I Need You.” All the People Said Amen. Essential Records, 2013.
(posted by Renee Beamer)